By Jane Tanfei|Jun 06 2013 | Psychology, Thoughts, Writings
Sorrow, Confusion, Joy – Recovery. And so, dear reader, you have entered my life while I am in a continuous state of recovery. I call this a recovery because it is a daily struggle not to slip into those old behaviors. I must always be mindful of my thoughts and my words to avoid self-hate […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jun 06 2013 | Psychology, Thoughts, Writings
“If you’re happy, we’re happy.” – Codependency. They say the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I don’t know if I believe in hell, but I do know that I am surely going there if it exists. Codependence is described as excessive attachment and need for approval from others as a condition for one’s […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jun 06 2013 | Psychology, Thoughts, Writings
Hapless, Helpless, Hopeless, Worthless – Battered Person Syndrome. Battered Person Syndrome is, essentially, when an abused person believes that s/he deserves and/or is responsible for any abuse that happens to him/her. I have always believed that I am responsible for abuse I have endured, that it’s my fault because I am a piece of crap, […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jun 06 2013 | Psychology, Thoughts, Writings
Secrets, Fear, Lies – Dysfunctional Family Life. My life as a child was not at all happy. In fact, I can’t actually remember any happiness on my part. All potentially happy experiences were subdued because I was always expecting something bad to happen. I remember feeling no joy or excitement about things like birthdays or […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jun 05 2013 | Psychology, Thoughts, Writings
I have spent a lot of time trying to figure out “What is wrong with me?” and “How could I have done the things I’ve done?” Essentially, I’ve been obsessed with trying to understand the reasons I have been the way I have been and acted the way I’ve acted. In my search for answers, […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|May 28 2013 | Poetry, Thoughts, Writings
Oh hypocrite and critic, Please let me hear thy flame, That doubly rude entendre, That debasement of my name. I see your words and wonder What it is you wish to find? I feel like I must look beyond Those words, so unkind. You seem hell-bent on hurting Those around you, without shame, Yet you […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|May 20 2013 | Humor, Metaphysical Discussion, Psychology, Star Trek, Thoughts, Writings
I always feel strange when I hear about other people’s “bucket lists” – things people want to do before they die. Maybe it’s my chronological age, or may it’s just human nature, but it seems like the majority of things people want to do have to do with sex, drugs, and/or daredevil stunts. I can’t […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|May 16 2013 | Poetry, Thoughts, Writings
There was a button in my pocket. I touched it just to see If this button was a button That might help me. I left it there awhile, I even forgot. I put my hand in my pocket, Smiled at what my fingers sought. I pulled the button out, Studied it with intent. I don’t […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|May 12 2013 | Music, Shameless Self-Promotion, Thoughts, Video, Writings
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Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|May 09 2013 | Curiousity, Metaphysical Discussion, Thoughts, Writings
I am feeling confused today, though about what I am uncertain. The feeling in my head is a jumbled feeling, as if there is something I am upset about and something I’m not upset about that are warring in my mind. But, I do not have any feelings of upset in my heart. I am longing for the […]
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