By Jane Tanfei|Oct 23 2017 | Thoughts
This year has been Rough with a capital R. I was reading the Chinese Zodiac for this year and noted that the year was supposed to be a year of dawn & awakening, triumph & success and characterized by hard work and patience. The year was supposed to hold an inner warmth, a gift of […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Feb 18 2016 | Thoughts
I’ve sorted through the tenets of my personal philosophy lately, and I’ve now established some ground rules for interpersonal relationships. In the past, I’ve just let things go how they go, with a laissez-faire attitude about forgiving & forgetting. Generally speaking, I don’t hold grudges and tend to shrug off slights directed at me because I don’t think they’re […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jun 18 2014 | Thoughts
“A house is made of walls and beams; a home is built with love and dreams.” This note was in a fortune cookie I got the other day. I’m not usually one to take anything more than humor from fortune cookie scrolls, but this one stuck with me. I kept this particular little piece of waxed paper and […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jun 12 2014 | Thoughts
I get upset when I see, read, or hear objectification of humans. I know that this comes from being treated as an object in my youth, knowing I was worth nothing more than what my body could provide for other people’s pleasure. I feel an immense sadness and some heartache when I encounter anything that has to […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Apr 21 2014 | Thoughts
I have only recently been able to recognize that I AM good enough for the world. To be sure, I still have a problem remembering this (because I’ve spent about thirty years telling myself the exact opposite thing), but I KNOW it to be true. I can say with complete honesty that the real reason […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Apr 17 2014 | Thoughts
Bring out the party hats and confetti, folks, I’ve finally MADE IT!!! I have finally been able to pull those last vestiges of the old me out of the dark, examine them and hold them to the light. And, they’ve taken on the light and held it. I’m different. I’ve become someone else, just in […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Mar 06 2014 | Psychology, Thoughts
Sometimes, I feel despair because I think about how my emotions are pointless and useless – they are good for nothing besides causing me pain. I was thinking about how I’m always out of sync – feeling happy things when socially I “should” feel bad, or seeing negativity where others only see positive things. Most […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Feb 24 2014 | Psychology, Thoughts
I just realized what I have learned about myself in the past few days: I don’t want to be detached anymore. It’s strange to think that, but I recognize now that I usually am detached because it is a way to protect myself from emotional upset. I think now that I understand the reality that […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Feb 24 2014 | Curiousity, Thoughts
The one thing I don’t like about my life is that is intermittently, against my will, chaotic. I get stuck in ideas sometimes – trying to figure out the point of these situations. I know, intuitively, that there is a reason for those experiences, but I have a hard time just accepting that the “ah-ha moment” […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Feb 19 2014 | Psychology, Thoughts
Nigh on a year ago, I vowed to myself (in the post On Shame…) that the shame in my heart was breathing its last breaths. I’ve been busting through those pockets of shame with a sledgehammer, hauling out those sharp edges that have caused me to feel broken, and patching up the holes with thoughts […]
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