By Jane Tanfei|Dec 31 2018 | Thoughts, Writings
2018 was a year that brought joy and pain, confusion and insight. I spent the first half of the year dealing with an unpleasant set of circumstances that culminated in a drawn-out court case. This has been an ongoing issue since 2016, but this year was more soul-sucking, I guess. I took a full-time position […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Dec 31 2017 | Thoughts
2017 was a long year for me. I didn’t have much to say overall, as is evidenced by my unusual lack of blog posts. It was a difficult year, full of events, failures, rejections, and encounters I’d like to put behind me. It was not all bad, though, there were shining moments of happiness and […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Oct 23 2017 | Thoughts
This year has been Rough with a capital R. I was reading the Chinese Zodiac for this year and noted that the year was supposed to be a year of dawn & awakening, triumph & success and characterized by hard work and patience. The year was supposed to hold an inner warmth, a gift of […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Feb 18 2016 | Thoughts
I’ve sorted through the tenets of my personal philosophy lately, and I’ve now established some ground rules for interpersonal relationships. In the past, I’ve just let things go how they go, with a laissez-faire attitude about forgiving & forgetting. Generally speaking, I don’t hold grudges and tend to shrug off slights directed at me because I don’t think they’re […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jun 18 2014 | Thoughts
“A house is made of walls and beams; a home is built with love and dreams.” This note was in a fortune cookie I got the other day. I’m not usually one to take anything more than humor from fortune cookie scrolls, but this one stuck with me. I kept this particular little piece of waxed paper and […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jun 11 2014 | Thoughts
I recently had a night on the town, the first I’ve ever actually had. It was fun overall, because I had a good time interacting with the people I was with. I admit that I had several moments of discomfort and boredom, though, because I was there to be there, not because I necessarily wanted […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Apr 21 2014 | Thoughts
I have only recently been able to recognize that I AM good enough for the world. To be sure, I still have a problem remembering this (because I’ve spent about thirty years telling myself the exact opposite thing), but I KNOW it to be true. I can say with complete honesty that the real reason […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Apr 17 2014 | Thoughts
Bring out the party hats and confetti, folks, I’ve finally MADE IT!!! I have finally been able to pull those last vestiges of the old me out of the dark, examine them and hold them to the light. And, they’ve taken on the light and held it. I’m different. I’ve become someone else, just in […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Mar 27 2014 | Thoughts
I have a very hard time trying to understand the point of enduring constant struggle in life. I feel like I am struggling just to keep my head above water – always on the brink of drowning, always trying to find that last bit of strength, so tired that I am always yearning to let myself […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Mar 06 2014 | Psychology, Thoughts
I am flip-flopping – still – on if I want to share this information. It is painful to me, but I need to get it outside of myself because I need to reflect upon it from an external viewpoint. For the past couple of weeks, I’ve tried to solve a problem in my mind – how […]
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