By Jane Tanfei|Mar 11 2025 | Poetry|Share a thought...
I dreamed of the you I’ve never met,Face to face,I traced your fine lines,I memorized this version of you,I smiled. When I woke up, I knew it was you,But how could I know,Unless some version of us survived? It’s the only comfort,That somewhere, We were able to speak,We were able to grow,We figured it out. […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Oct 03 2016 | Psychology, Thoughts
I’ve thought a lot lately about self-respect and what it means. The dictionary defines self-respect as, “pride and confidence in oneself; a feeling that one is behaving with honor and dignity.” I like that definition, I really do, but when I’m thinking of self-respect, I am thinking of it as it relates to other people. […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jul 26 2015 | Dreams, Thoughts
I had a really great dream last night. I was an operative in a secret spy group, tasked with taking down a fleet of robotic soldiers who were programmed to seek and destroy the citizens of my country. It was action-packed: full of explosions, climbing over barbed-wire fences, jumping off a cliff and, finally, landing on […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jul 17 2015 | Thoughts
I get pretty tired of always thinking about men and relationships. It’s annoying, seriously. I guess, really, it’s me always trying to figure out how the heck to find a good relationship. I know the logistics of it: start dating random men, find a compatible one, start a relationship. It seems simple to me, in theory, until I […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jan 08 2015 | Thankful Thursday, Thoughts
Try as I might, I can’t seem to share the world with other people. I don’t seem to experience things with other people. I try to be present, but my thoughts and feelings constantly create a barrier between myself and the people around me. Mostly, people just assume I’m “stuck-up” or “think I’m better than […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jun 27 2014 | Poetry
It’s not about money or diamonds, It’s not about sordid pasts. There are many things that are worth it And love is the first and the last. I want to be loved with reckless abandon. I want to be held gently and be softly spared In the arms of a warm and kind-hearted lover; I […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jun 18 2014 | Thoughts
“A house is made of walls and beams; a home is built with love and dreams.” This note was in a fortune cookie I got the other day. I’m not usually one to take anything more than humor from fortune cookie scrolls, but this one stuck with me. I kept this particular little piece of waxed paper and […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jun 12 2014 | Thoughts
I get upset when I see, read, or hear objectification of humans. I know that this comes from being treated as an object in my youth, knowing I was worth nothing more than what my body could provide for other people’s pleasure. I feel an immense sadness and some heartache when I encounter anything that has to […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|May 02 2014 | Thoughts
There’s very little that gives me a feeling of dread anymore, and that is a good thing. Unfortunately, there is one specific topic that pretty much ONLY gives me dread: dating. People keep trying to goad or talk me into going on dates, or “just think about it”. I don’t want to. Leave me alone […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Apr 21 2014 | Thoughts
I have only recently been able to recognize that I AM good enough for the world. To be sure, I still have a problem remembering this (because I’ve spent about thirty years telling myself the exact opposite thing), but I KNOW it to be true. I can say with complete honesty that the real reason […]
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