By Jane Tanfei|Mar 31 2014 | Thoughts
This morning I realized that I am a kind person. I have always technically KNOWN this, but today I realized it. What I mean is, I realized that I am inherently kind and compassionate – my first thoughts when I see someone struggle aren’t thoughts of disgust or dismissal, they are thoughts of how I can […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Mar 06 2014 | Psychology, Thoughts
I am flip-flopping – still – on if I want to share this information. It is painful to me, but I need to get it outside of myself because I need to reflect upon it from an external viewpoint. For the past couple of weeks, I’ve tried to solve a problem in my mind – how […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Mar 06 2014 | Psychology, Thoughts
Sometimes, I feel despair because I think about how my emotions are pointless and useless – they are good for nothing besides causing me pain. I was thinking about how I’m always out of sync – feeling happy things when socially I “should” feel bad, or seeing negativity where others only see positive things. Most […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Feb 24 2014 | Psychology, Thoughts
I just realized what I have learned about myself in the past few days: I don’t want to be detached anymore. It’s strange to think that, but I recognize now that I usually am detached because it is a way to protect myself from emotional upset. I think now that I understand the reality that […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Feb 24 2014 | Curiousity, Thoughts
The one thing I don’t like about my life is that is intermittently, against my will, chaotic. I get stuck in ideas sometimes – trying to figure out the point of these situations. I know, intuitively, that there is a reason for those experiences, but I have a hard time just accepting that the “ah-ha moment” […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Feb 19 2014 | Psychology, Thoughts
Nigh on a year ago, I vowed to myself (in the post On Shame…) that the shame in my heart was breathing its last breaths. I’ve been busting through those pockets of shame with a sledgehammer, hauling out those sharp edges that have caused me to feel broken, and patching up the holes with thoughts […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Feb 13 2014 | Thoughts
In a mood of despondency, feeling a wailing and hopeless sense of despair, I decided to write down what I would need and want from a partner – if I were ever lucky enough to find one. The despair comes from the reality that there are some things about me that point to the idea […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Feb 10 2014 | Curiousity, Metaphysical Discussion, Thoughts
There is a set of ideas floating around my head – a qualitative and definitive understanding relative to my current emotions and thoughts and evoked by recent events in my life. The main tenets of this soon-to-be formulated understanding of my world: 1) Fear is irrelevant. 2) Money is irrelevant. 3) Intuition is key. 4) […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jan 20 2014 | Thoughts, Writings
So, this morning I am thinking about humans and our need to judge others by our own fickle standards. I was already kind of thinking about this as I did my morning trudge; I’d been considering the frustration I feel at the automatic mental comparisons I do every day. Not because I want to, but […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jan 06 2014 | Dreams, Thoughts, Writings
I remember the first time I wished upon a star. I’d watched Pinocchio for the first time after my siblings and I received it on VHS at Christmas. I was four and a half years old – sitting in the back of a minivan, settling in for an hour long ride to evening church. I […]
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