By Jane Tanfei|Feb 18 2016 | Thoughts
I’ve sorted through the tenets of my personal philosophy lately, and I’ve now established some ground rules for interpersonal relationships. In the past, I’ve just let things go how they go, with a laissez-faire attitude about forgiving & forgetting. Generally speaking, I don’t hold grudges and tend to shrug off slights directed at me because I don’t think they’re […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|May 13 2014 | Thoughts
I’ve realized that I feel some level anxiety every single day. What I also realized is that the source for this is, most often, based in thoughts of social propriety. As a person who no longer wishes to be socially propitious, this bothers me greatly. Happily, each day’s anxiety is a little easier to manage and […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|May 02 2014 | Thoughts
There’s very little that gives me a feeling of dread anymore, and that is a good thing. Unfortunately, there is one specific topic that pretty much ONLY gives me dread: dating. People keep trying to goad or talk me into going on dates, or “just think about it”. I don’t want to. Leave me alone […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Apr 17 2014 | Thoughts
Bring out the party hats and confetti, folks, I’ve finally MADE IT!!! I have finally been able to pull those last vestiges of the old me out of the dark, examine them and hold them to the light. And, they’ve taken on the light and held it. I’m different. I’ve become someone else, just in […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jul 29 2013 | Thoughts
By the standards of the world, I am not beautiful. I’m too short, too buxom, too curvy, too zaftig, too hungry, too plain, too unmade, too spotty, to stretch-marked, too muscular, too natural, too uninterested, too hairy, too dark, and/or too modestly dressed. I will never be a size 0. I will never be taller […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jun 20 2013 | Metaphysical Discussion, Psychology, Thankful Thursday, Thoughts
I wrote the first post on this blog (Hello World…) one year and one day ago. Over the past 366 days, I’ve written a lot about myself and my struggles. My goal in starting this blog was to break through the deeply seated Silence that has blanketed my life. I feel like I have achieved my goal, […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Mar 11 2013 | Dreams, Metaphysical Discussion, Thoughts
Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. A.A. Milne
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Aug 08 2012 | Metaphysical Discussion, Rant, Thoughts
The thing that is bothering me today is the sexualization of females. It is disheartening, disturbing, and disgusting to me. I look at female musicians and a large majority of them choose to post images of themselves scantily-clad, in provocative and suggestive poses, with “come hither” looks on their faces. It’s so frustrating. I understand […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jul 06 2012 | Rant, Thoughts
I can’t tell if I am confident or not. I looked up “confidence” in the dictionary to see if it would help me to discern my feelings. Confidence is belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities, assurance of and full trust in oneself. Okay, so I’m going to go over this to find out whether […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jun 22 2012 | Shameless Self-Promotion, Thoughts, Writings
(Written in 2011 for an online writing contest, took third prize.) The Beauty of a Woman I am a woman. I do not look, talk, dress, or act like a girl. I do not want to look, talk, dress, or act like a girl. My hair is dark brown. I do not bleach it or […]
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