By Jane Tanfei|Jul 01 2013 | Psychology, Star Trek, Thoughts
I feel love. It cuts me very deeply and leaves me open and raw and feeling bereaved, yet also feeling soft and warm and comforted because that love is beautiful even as it is painful. Additionally, that love causes distress because I fluctuate between feeling tough and feeling tender. I do not allow myself vulnerability, […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Jun 17 2013 | Metaphysical Discussion, Psychology, Thoughts
I wonder what it would be like to feel attachment to people, places, things? One of the strangest things about me is that I have very little attachment to anyone or anyplace or anything. Internally, when I feel myself begin to get too attached to someone or something, I automatically shut off those feelings because […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|May 20 2013 | Humor, Metaphysical Discussion, Psychology, Star Trek, Thoughts, Writings
I always feel strange when I hear about other people’s “bucket lists” – things people want to do before they die. Maybe it’s my chronological age, or may it’s just human nature, but it seems like the majority of things people want to do have to do with sex, drugs, and/or daredevil stunts. I can’t […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|May 09 2013 | Curiousity, Metaphysical Discussion, Thoughts, Writings
I am feeling confused today, though about what I am uncertain. The feeling in my head is a jumbled feeling, as if there is something I am upset about and something I’m not upset about that are warring in my mind. But, I do not have any feelings of upset in my heart. I am longing for the […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|May 06 2013 | Curiousity, Metaphysical Discussion, Thoughts
I am feeling very thankful that I am alive. This morning, I read about a very sad situation – a young couple in love, separated by death. They met, they fell in love, they were happy together. The young woman, though, was stricken with an incurable disease. The young man, knowing his beloved would soon […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Apr 30 2013 | Curiousity, Metaphysical Discussion, Thoughts, Writings
Today, I can feel myself changing. There are certain things that I have thought about today that do not bother me as much as they would have bothered me even a few weeks ago. This morning, I thought, “Maybe I’ve finally grown up.” But, I don’t even know what “grown up” means… I will never […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Apr 26 2013 | Thoughts
One thing I have always been ashamed of is my appearance. I happen to have medium brown skin, dark curly hair, and brown eyes. I’ve been called “dog ugly” as many times as I’ve been called “beautiful”, so I doubt I’m either – probably just a plain Jane. It doesn’t really matter either way. What […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Apr 25 2013 | Curiousity, Rant, Thoughts
I’ve thought a lot about shame, and the things that we do to avoid exposing our shame to the world. We lie, we trick, we cheat, we hurt others, we hate, we steal, we murder, we suicide to hide our shame. As if these bad things we do to hide our shame can ever overshadow […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Apr 04 2013 | Metaphysical Discussion, Thankful Thursday, Thoughts
I am having a very difficult time today with overwhelming emotions. I feel like a disappointment to my family, I feel like I am living a pointless life, and I feel completely hopeless that I will ever be what I’m “supposed to be”. I don’t even know what I am supposed to be, other than […]
Continue Reading →By Jane Tanfei|Mar 21 2013 | Metaphysical Discussion, Psychology, Thoughts
psychology2010: Sternberg’s Love Theory The triangular theory of love is a theory of love developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg. In the context of interpersonal relationships, ‘the three components of love, according to the triangular theory, are an intimacy component, a passion component, and a decision/commitment component’. Intimacy – Which encompasses feelings of attachment, closeness, connectedness, […]
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